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Me time - Finding Myself Again After having Kids | The Ordinary Moments


When you have kids, as a mother you never intend to loose yourself, it just becomes inevitable. Or is it just me? As well as your body changing as you grow and give birth to a child, your whole life switched to caring for this tiny human who completely depends on you for everything. All of a sudden, life as you know it is over. Not in a bad way of course, just different and after 4 and a half years of being a mum I'm not sure I even remember who I used to be because now I'm "mummy".  I used to live care free, go out for drinks every night after work, have weekends away and be more spontaneous. 

After having Harry I went back into that hole again and only now feel like I'm coming out of it again and doing more stuff for myself and instead of just existing i'm being Kerry. I've started reading, which is something I haven't done since having kids. Of course I read blogs but it's not the same as sitting down and reading a book. 


I've started going on the sunbeds again, something I used to do years ago before going on holiday and with a holiday coming up in November I want to build up a base tan. Also, just having a bit of colour makes me feel happy and it helps with my dry skin on my arms. 


This week I did something out of the ordinary, well at least for me anyway... I booked myself into get eye lash extensions and then a few days later to get HD brows. I've never ever been to a salon before or got my eyebrows done so it was nice to have some time to myself. 

I'll also be having a lot more time to myself with a child free day on the day I don't work due to recent events which means I can get out and do more stuff for myself! I'm looking at getting my nails done soon and hoping to make it a regular thing and pamper myself. I'm don't have many friends in real life, the majority of them I met through blogging so live hundreds of miles away so I do feel very lonely. I'm not a very sociable person as I'm very shy until you get to know me which is why it probably makes meeting new people a lot harder for me. Hopefully now I can get out more and start dating, something I should have done a year ago instead of wasting a whole year to find out I've been the mug believing I could trust someone again! 

But we only learn from our mistakes, so it's time I start finding myself again. 

Kerry xo

11 comments

  1. I felt the same at the end of last year. I was a shadow of myself and just felt like I had no identity. I started exercising and started to buy nail varnish and make up plus I lost a lot of weight and my mind state has improved, drastically. I can't believe how much I let myself go and that I never took any time for myself. It's so important x

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  2. You deserve some pampering. I think Mums all feel that we lose some of who they are when they have children. Hopefully you will meet some new friends at school gates soon. It is hard to meet new people but remember it only takes a couple second of courage to say "hello". Exciting new adventures ahead.

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  3. You totally deserve some pampering, all us mums do. I regularly treat myself to shellac nails, eyebrow wax, tint etc. You've got to or like you say you end up becoming lost to just Mummy and not being the woman you are or once were.

    I hope the dating goes well and it'll give you a chance to get out and socialise too as being a mum can be very lonely at times. Fingers crossed for new friends as well :) You might make friends with some of the mum's from the kids school?

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  4. You totally deserve a little pamper every now and then! You look gorgeous and I love the eyelashes! Fingers crossed on the dating front xxx Popping over from #Ordinarymoments

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  5. Indeed, you deserve time for yourself. I am also a little shy, and don't have many friends, so I can really relate. You look beautiful, and your green eyes are really lovely...

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  6. I've been seeing on Facebook the hard time you have been having Kerry, I am thinking of you and you must be in so much pain. You do find yourself again, go and pamper yourself, enjoy it and show him what you are missing. Not caring and finding yourself again is the best karma possible. And I bet you will suddenly realise just what you have and that you don't need to have that kind of sadness in your life. You are beautiful, intelligent, an amazing business woman (through building your blog!) and I can guarantee if you believe in yourself more your confidence will grow. Good luck to you lovely lady, you deserve it. xx

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  7. Indeed you need some pampering now and then girl....i so love the eye lashes...on point����

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  8. You definitely deserve to have pamper, and it's so right what you say about losing yourself when you become a mother. Your eyelashes look amazing - I have always wanted to try extensions but never have - maybe I should give them a go too xx

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  9. Amazing Post, I love it.
    kids are the paradise for me. Take care of them.

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  10. It's so hard to find a balance between being a parent and a person in your own right isn't it, especially with all you've been going through at the moment. I'm so glad you're taking time out for yourself and hopefully you will start feeling better soon x

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  11. Oh you look amazing!! It took me a long time to find myself after my first child - something i wasn't expecting! I made lots of friends when my eldest started school so maybe it will be the same for you. Sending love xx

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