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A First Pet & Social Anxiety | The Ordinary Moments


It will probably sound silly to most but I don't usually like taking the kids out of the house unless its for a quiet walk in the country side, aside from the school run and to the shops of course. I've never really been much of a people person and tend to keep myself to myself, I'm incredibly shy meeting new people and defintiely an introvert. However, I do try and get out as often as I can with the kids instead of being cooped up indoors, it just doesn't tend to be where there are crowds of people unless I'm with family or friends. 

We don't really go to any play centres or soft play, mainly because our favourite one closed down and the next one is about 40 minutes away, and we never go on play dates. We never go swimming or do any other activities but I have booked some after school and weekend clubs for Amelia for when she starts back at school so that will be good to socialise with other parents. 


But yesterday I decided to take the kids to the local carnival as we had been driving past them setting it up for a couple of days and Amelia kept asking to go. In the back of my mind I hoped she would forget and not ask again but you know kids are like at that age, they NEVER forget anything! So she kept begging to go every day, until the day came and I thought what excuse can I make not to go and asked her if she wanted to go to the beach instead. Nope, the funfair it was. She really wanted to go and that made me feel really guilty, my anxiety was stopping her from doing something she really wanted to do. So off we went to the funfair, she was so excited and I was glad I made the right decision. 


I was a little dubious at first as to whether it would be worth going as she wouldn't really be able to go on anything as I would be on my own with both of the kids and Harry can't go on anything but I needn't have worried as there was plenty of rides for her age where she could go on by herself and we could stand nearby and watch. She went on about 6 or 7 rides, and played on the bouncy castles and kids play area for a while, got her face painted and then she asked if we could play one of the games at the stalls, you know one of those where you have to grab a duck with a hook and you win a prize. I managed to grab a duck and Amelia was able to choose any prize she wished. 


Of course she would only go and choose a bloody goldfish! Before I had to chance to ask her if she really wanted it and to choose something else the guy had already grabbed the fish and handed her the bag. It brought back memories of when I won a goldfish when staying at my grandparents when I was a kid and had to sit with it on my lap for 8 hours whilst travelling home. She was so happy with her prize and named the fish Elsa, ha ha! We then grabbed some candy floss and a hot dog and made our way back to the car as we now had a bloody fish to look after. 



All in all, it was a lovely day and do you know what? I'm glad I plucked up the courage to take them both on my own as Amelia was so happy and well behaved. It's not often that we go to local attractions and funfairs as such but I definitely will in future now as it wasn't that bad at all. I have a circus trip, cinema day, the zoo and some other day trips planned for the rest of the summer and I can't wait! Now that Harry is older it's a bit easier to take them out on my own as he can walk and I can still keep an eye on Amelia if she wanders off. 

Amelia has always wanted a pet, so is really happy with her fish. I'm going to take her to the pet shop tomorrow to get some bits for the tank which she is really excited to do. Lets just hope it stays alive! 

6 comments

  1. Oh lovely - sorry to hear this. It can be daunting going out with two children, I feel it ALL the time, especially in crowded places. But getting some fresh air is really important for me so we often just go for a walk or go to the local park. SO glad you went to this and look how much fun you had!! Enjoy the new pet ;) xx

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  2. Oh wow what an afternoon! I'm glad you decided to go and Amelia looks like she loved it - and the fish!!

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  3. Nothing wrong with a nice walk along country lanes, all sorts can be explored and talked about and their imagination can run riot along with them, we have zombie hunted in the woods more than once.
    But well done on braving it and giving them a great day out. Amelia's little face says it all really. It is hard when you have the two of them, but as you say will get easier as Harry gets older.
    Dont over face yourself with too many clubs and groups or parents all in one go.

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  4. I can totally relate to this...I spend so much time in the house. My head always fills with anxiety of everything that could go wrong if we go anywhere. This last year though I've really pushed myself and taken Munch swimming twice on my own (no MM...one step at a time!) And the end feeling of achieving the impossible is so rewarding...just remember that feeling and don't stop testing your boundaries. Well done you xx

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  5. Well done you Kerry. I get like that - I never have the courage to go somewhere by myself with the kids where there are huge crowds unless I am with friends or family.
    Amelia looks so cute and proud! x

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