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How My Confidence Has Grown As A Parent




Since becoming a parent nearly four years ago my confidence has grown a lot, I have always been one who's needed reassurance as I've never quite believed in myself or trusted my instincts. However fast forward a couple of years and here I am with so much more confidence and that's all down to becoming a parent and having to go out of my comfort zone from time to time. I am much more confident with Harry than I was with Amelia, and it has grown through many of their different milestones. Many people think that parenting skills come naturally, however it usually takes around 6 months to feel confident as a parent according to Nurofen for Children who recently conducted some research to find out the UK's top confidence boosters.

There are hundreds of baby books, apps and parenting forums giving you advice and the best tips on how to do things, but at the end of the day I believe its all down to personal preference. In some cases there's no right or wrong way of doing something and one parent may do something differently than another but that doesn't mean that they're wrong. We are all different. 32% of parents feel more confident having been through it before and 18% feel more confident getting advice from other parents such as through forums, Facebook groups and at the school gates. 

I remember the first day I brought Amelia home from the hospital, so small and delicate, we quietly strapped her into the car and whispered the whole way home as she was sleeping. When ever the TV was on we had it on low and would talk quietly. Oh how things changed when we brought Harry home. We were talking normally and Amelia was always noisy yet Harry slept through it all. We didn't bother muting the TV or lowering our voices as we had learnt that if he wanted to sleep he would and it was best that he got used to the noise. 


With breastfeeding, I remember once Amelia was born I still had no idea whether I was going to formula or breastfeed her but the nurse suggested it was time to feed her and she latched on perfectly. We had our fair share of bumps along the way, I was a bag of nerves if I needed to feed her out in public, we had to time going out with her feedings. Fast forward to Harry being born, we started off breastfeeding and It all came naturally to me, I was confident feeding him and no longer went to sit on the bathroom floor in restaurants to nurse.

When Amelia had her first ever rash and fever, I panicked and went on Google and looked for answers, asked on parenting groups I was a member of for advice of others as I didn't know what to do. The next time she was had a rash or fever, I had an idea of what it could be, I was confident in what to give her to ease her pain and soothe her.

I remember taking Amelia for her first lot of injections at 6 or 8 weeks and being a nervous wreck. The thought of someone putting a needle into her tiny little legs made me shiver with guilt. However by the time she had the next ones, I was confident that we would handle them well. 

I think as a first time parent you are less confident when it comes to making decisions and with your child's development milestones from the first time they scream the house down with teething pains, are constipated or fall over and hurt themselves from trying to take their first steps. However over time, confidence grows so the next time it happens you know how to deal with it. 

How has your confidence grown since as a parent?

* This post is in collaboration with Nurofen. For details on how I work with brands take a look at my work with me page. You might also like:

11 comments

  1. In some ways yes. Lovely pictures xxx

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  2. I hate the panic of having to rely on Google for advice when it comes to the kids..it springs up all sorts of ideas what could be wrong, so as I rule I don't google any more!

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  3. I've found I'm much less anxious with no. 2 which has made me feel more confident

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  4. I was very anxious - having twins and not having had children before, but am learning on the job! I have found online support useful and groups :) xx

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  5. I was a lot more confident after baby number 2. Currently pregnant with #3 and hoping the confidence will continue :-) x

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  6. Totally agree, I felt with my second that I was so much more in control. First time parenthood is the unknown isn't it, we are parents in training, by the time second baby is here, we are much more experienced and feel more reliant on our own instinct. Lovely post and pictures x

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  7. Being a parent always brings new challenges and worries but it is an amazing journey to be on. I loved breastfeeding but it was far from easy and was actually hardest with my third child. Overall I'm more confident that I instinctively know what's right for my children.

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  8. More confident in making decisions.

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  9. Confidence is natural part of being a parent it's so scary to start the more time that goes by the more confident we become then it because second nature. Parenthood is such a beautiful experience. Xxx

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  10. It is amazing how you change from when you have your first baby, you realise what's necessary and what isn't and become a lot more laid back, it's great!

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