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{THE ORDINARY MOMENTS 15} #12 ME TIME


It's not unusual for us mums to get caught up in everything and forget about ourselves. We always put everyone else first and rightly so when kids are involved however it's nice to not be "mummy" for a few hours, not having to clean dirty nappies and not having to listen to the toddlers 50th tantrum of the day. Sometimes we just need a break and that's okay because we are only human.

These past couple of weeks I've began to realise that it's okay to go out without the kids and it's okay not to feel guilty about it too. I've been getting out of the house on my own even if it's just popping to the local supermarket and browsing every isle just to waste time, i've been to coffee shops catching up on some work and emails whilst enjoying a hot mug of hot chocolate without a toddler screaming in one ear and having to multitask and feed the baby whilst typing with one hand. 

I recently went to a concert and didn't get back until 1am which is probably the latest I've been out since having the kids as I would always want to get back early as I would feel guilty on babysitters (my mum). I've also been out for food with friends a couple of times which I really do miss. I used to love going out to eat but never have the chance to go anymore so it's nice when you can go out and catch up with friends and enjoy some nice food with adult conversation. I'm also planing on going to the cinema with another friend next week and possibly a day at the spa soon too. There's so much that I want to do and there's nothing holding me back anymore. 

It's these little things that I used to do and stopped doing once I became a mother that I miss and I've come to realise that I shouldn't have to hide away and just be a mum. I miss my social life and I WILL get it back this year! Of course I love my children and would rather spend the day with them any day of the week but it's good to have "me time" every once in a while. When Amelia was born I was too nervous to leave her as I'd miss her too much, and would be that paranoid mum. Since Harrison was born I'm much more relaxed and don't mind leaving him so much as I know he'll be okay. I don't get the evenings to myself anymore since Harrison was born not that I would do anything with my evenings other than blog so I need to grab the chances where I can get time to myself and just go for it and not be afraid to go out and leave the kids. 

It's nice to be Kerry again instead of just mummy!

   
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10 comments

  1. I completely agree. Sometimes us Mum's need to recharge our batteries, we can't run on empty -- we're only human! x

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  2. Completely get it. My social life is very different now but I find with having less time, I have finally been able to make the things I enjoy the most a priority. So while I am out less, a lot less, I am doing the things that make me feel the most "me". Even if it's reading a book in the bath without feeling guilty (while Daddy is with H of course) xx

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  3. Perfect!
    Love you sweet cheeks
    Charlotte x

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  4. Such a great post! Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us!

    http://weareatlove.com
    Martina

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  5. Oh you enjoy your 'you' time- us Mums definitely deserve it! I've always been an advocate of still trying to maintain a social life and hobbies/interests post children (although it can be hard at times!), I think it makes me a better Mum having had a break, and a better partner too as I have more to talk about and not just the children :-) #ordinarymoments

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  6. It's definitely good to get some you time. We all need a break and shouldn't feel guilty about it!

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  7. I'm still learning to make time for 'mum time'.
    I had to laugh at yor browsing every Isle of the supermarket example. That's definitely something I would do!

    www.eatlovelivelondon.blogspot.co.uk

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  8. I completely agree Kerry and you definitely have nothing to feel guilty about for wanting a bit of you time. We are only human and I genuinely think if I have the odd bit of time away from my girls, that I am actually a better Mum when I am with them. It's so exhausting this parenting malarky and sometimes it's nice to switch off for a bit- of course we wouldn't change being a parent for anything in the world, that goes without saying. Enjoy your ME time! xx

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  9. You sound exactly like me my love, but I am so glad you got out and enjoyed yourself xx

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  10. There is nothing like a good Costa is there ! #OrdinaryMoments xx

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