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{THE ORDINARY MOMENTS 15} #8 BEING SOCIABLE


I'm not the most sociable person... I never have been, online you may think otherwise however in real life I am a very introvert person. I like to keep myself to myself and have always been really shy until I get to know someone. I hate speaking to people I don't know face to face or on the phone and avoid having to do so as much as I can. I let phone calls go to voice mail so I don't have to speak to them unless its someone I know. Maybe it's my insecurities that are talking here but I hate being around people all the time, I'm afraid I'll have nothing interesting to say as I'm very self conscious. 

When Amelia was born I began going to baby groups and play dates and this resulted in meeting other mums and having to speak to various new people including health visitors, doctors, etc and I didn't mind so much anymore. I began to feel much more comfortable in myself and not so shy. Fast forward a couple of years and I found myself pregnant again and once again hid myself away. It wasn't that I didn't want to meet people I just genuinely couldn't be bothered going anywhere or having to speak to anyone I didn't know. I stopped going out on my own or with Amelia unless I necessarily had to and became very anti-social.

Since Harrison was born, I suddenly felt like a new person. I'm not sure what it was, but all of a sudden I had this whole new bout of confidence in me and I wanted to get out of the house, go places, have fun with the kids and meet new people! I've been going to playgroup and I've already signed up for a mother and baby gym class when I turn 6 weeks postpartum which I'm looking forward to. I have been getting out a lot more lately with the kids on my own, whether it be to the play centre, park or for a walk in the forest when I have the car. 

I'm looking forward to the summer and enjoying the rest of my maternity leave off before returning to work in October. I can't wait to take the kids places, do new things, explore and most of all spend it in their company and make memories. I'm definitely planning on making the most of it as I feel like I wasted last summer which is such a shame, but I'm glad my confidence is back and I finally snapped out of it. 

   
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13 comments

  1. It;s really nice to hear that you found that confidence to go out there and get on with life. I'm quite a anxious person, and find it really hard to get out places. Baby groups are a complete no no for me. I'm hoping like you one day ill just snap out of it and feel better x
    Steph | www.raisingemily.net

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  2. Awww thats fab that you're feeling so confident!!! I;m very much the way you used to be, I`ve tried baby classes and groups but I`m too self conscious and never make friends :/
    xx

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  3. Aww thats great! Baby groups can be very daunting, especially at first, but it gets easier the more you do it doesn't it! x

    Abigail Bryony
    www.lilymaeadventures.com

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  4. Aww what a lovely post to read Kerry- you would never think you were shy from your wonderful life online and from meeting you at Brit Mums. Those groups can be daunting, I am not even a shy person and I find them a bit scary. It's great you have a new found confidence after having Harrison and are looking forward to a summer of fun with your babies. xx

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  5. So pleased to read this hunny.
    I'm the same, I appear confident but am actually shy until I know someone and hate talking on the phone.

    So pleased you have found a want to go and meet people through groups, it's not only good for the kids but for you too

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  6. Kerry, you sound so confident, bubbly and happy!! It's wonderful :) I didn't realise you were so introvert - if you're at this year's Britmums I'll be sure to say hello properly x

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  7. great post. I understand when your talking about not being ver social incase you don't have anything interesting to say!
    L
    Http://workingmumy.blogspot.com

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  8. You sound just like me. I hate talking to people I dont know. In saying that I work on the helpdesk and when I am at work I talk to several customers a day but it still seems different to me.
    When I had Matthew I wasnt confident enough to go anywhere. As a result we havent been out much when he was a baby and I feel sorry for him. I was anxious of him crying in public and all this sort of stuff. It must be the fact that I was a first time mum.
    Now that Chloe it is completely different. I wanted to get out of the house asap which I did. She has been out and about so much already in the last 3 weeks.
    I am even thinking of joining a baby and toddler group but havent had the courage yet in case all mums know each other and I am just sitting in the corner.
    When talking online, I could say anything,

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  9. The first time I went to a baby group when I first had Abi and being a new Mum I was terrified! But now I love taking Sophia to different groups and getting out and about with the girls as much as I can. Enjoy all those special moments xx

    Emily xx

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  10. I did not guess from your posts that you were an introvert. I am a definite introvert myself. I am not social and u find it hard to talk to people that I don't know really well. We can't all be extroverts though - variety is the spice of life as they say!

    I do worry that if I had children I would struggle to make Mummy friends and end up feeling lonely during maternity leave.

    Kads Life x
    Kadslife.blogspot.com

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  11. Its good to see so many people struggle with this also! I only had Roman 1 week ago, but when he's a bit bigger I am going to push myself to go to groups/classes.
    The first time is always the most nerve racking isn't it?! Once we've conquered the first one I'm hoping I'll be more confident to go to more...
    Rachel xx

    http://themakingofamummy.blogspot.co.uk/

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  12. I struggle with this also Kerry and so it's lovely to read such an honest open post talking about this subject. I'm so glad to hear that you've been feeling a lot more confident. You seem like such a lovely person, especially after meeting you at BritMums last year. You so deserve to feel confident about socialising. x

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  13. The way you describe yourself is exactly how I would describe myself too. At work I come across as this really confident person but there I can act. It's all a front, out of the comfort of the restaurant I am completely different. I too worry i have nothing interesting to say to people. I worry what others think and I really don't want to pass that on to Dexter. You are such a lovely person and shouldn't let any insecurities get the better of you. xx

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