When we brought Harry home from the hospital Amelia was ever so protective over him, she would tell us all the be quiet if we spoke to loud, she didn't like it when he cried, she would tell us when he did something or needed something but she wouldn't hold him or get too close. Four weeks on and she still won't hold him but she is getting more comfortable with him. She will touch his little hands or head without being prompted, if he looses a sock or drops his dummy she will go over and give it back to him and if he starts crying she was tell me that he's hungry. She always blows him a kiss goodnight and will ask where he is if he's not in the same room as us, she introduces him with so much excitement to everyone who walks in the room, she will ask if he's okay if he lets out a cry and anything of his that she sets her eyes on she will tell us that it's his and take it over to him so I know that she cares for him.
Every time I change his nappy she will run over and grab one of her dolls and lie them down and ask for a wipe and nappy to change them, she even put sudocrem on one of them last night! It's quite funny to watch but sweet too and shows that she watches what I do. I've also caught her lifting up her top and trying to "feed" them as well as burping them and having conversations with them just like I do with Harry to calm him down if he's crying. I can't wait for her to be able to do more with him, for example when I express she can help feed him a bottle, she will hold it occasionally now but as she won't hold him it's not the easiest way to feed him. She rocks the bouncer and pushes the swing when he's in them too but she doesn't stay next to him for long.
I look forward to the day that she wants to hold him and cuddle him, as I don't want to push her into doing something that she's not comfortable with doing. I will let her do so in her own time. I'm not sure what it is, is she scared of him or scared of hurting him? I suppose at least I know she won't hurt him and I don't have to worry about her doing anything to him when my backs turned.
For now I will enjoy the little ordinary moments I do see when she shows interest in him and when she helps out.
Did your older child take longer to adjust to their sibling?