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At 32 months Amelia has spent all of this time as an only child. She will be three in April and I forget just how fast she is growing. By then she will also have been a big sister for roughly three months which is just crazy! If you had asked me a couple of months ago how I thought Amelia would react to being a big sister I would probably have said "I'm dreading it" but over the past few months we have seen a huge change in her personality and the way she plays with her dolls and toys. She is far more affectionate than she ever was, she gives more kisses and asks for cuddles, she tucks her dolls and soft toys up under blankets, and role plays with them during the day. It's so sweet to watch and I'm glad she has started to do that rather than throw them about the living room and stomping on them like she used to.


Being an only child all her life you could say that Amelia has been spoilt, who doesn't like to spoil their children? I think it's going to be a big shock for her when her little brother appears, she will be wondering why this little baby is getting a lot of attention and why she has to share her toys or wait for mummy to play with her if I'm changing or feeding the baby. It will take time for her to adjust to this change, however I think that being the age that she is now she will adjust to it much easier. 


I've been trying to prepare her for this change, by taking about the baby, letting her kiss mummy's tummy and talk to her little brother. She was unsure to begin with, after all I wasn't showing so how was she to know there was a tiny person inside mummy's belly but over the past couple of months towards the end of my pregnancy as my bump has finally grown she has shown so much more interest. She will lift my top if I ask her where the baby is, she will kiss my belly when I ask her to and if someone asks where the baby is she will also point to my belly. At my midwife appointments she has been getting involved with touching my belly, feeling and talking to him. I think it's great that the midwives have always been so patient and actually interact with her too and she finds it interesting when I have to lie down on the bed to get checked over. 


A few other ways I've tried preparing her for her brother's arrival is by reading books related to new baby's, siblings and baby's being inside mummy's tummy. Her favourite seems to be I'm a big sister and we read it nearly every night. She's also been helping out in the nursery when I've been putting clothes away I've let her help and have been showing her the newborn nappies and his things such as the changing mat, cot, bouncer just so she gets used to them before he arrives.


With her baby brother due to arrive any day now I have been trying to enjoy as much one on one time with her as possible by going out together, baking, watching TV and snuggling on the sofa. A lot is about to change and as much as I am looking forward to another member of the family arriving, I am going to miss our time together. I can't wait to see how she interacts with her brother and I just know that she is going to be the best big sister ever especially with the reassurance she has shown me over these last few months. 


How did you prepare your older child for their new sibling? 

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8 comments

  1. i think all parents are the same. I know I'm super worried bout it. but kids are so vercitial and they bounce back. Its good that she is starting to be affectionate though. it alway nice to be asked for a kiss or cuddle :)
    Lx
    http://workingmumy.blogspot.com

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  2. P1 really struggled when P2 arrived, there's a 4 year gap between them. Her behaviour was terrible and it was hard to reason with her or get her to listen. I was so worried about P3s arrival and how P2 would cope and just assumed that P1 was used to being a big sister now. But P2 has barely batted an eyelid at the changes, she's taken being a big sister in her stride. P1s behaviour was awful in the first few weeks. There's a 19 month gap between P2 & P3.

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  3. I cant wait to see how Amelia reacts, i bet she will make a great big sister. My plan is to get Lilly involved with helping as much as i cant and my midwife told me that if both babies are crying always put the toddler first as they will remember. Not too long now! I keep checking your instagram and twitter to see if he is here yet haha! xx

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  4. Matthew is the same. He loves kissing my stomach. When I ask him where the baby is, he points at my tummy too. Sometimes I don't even have to say anything. For example today when I got him ready on the changing mat after bath he insisted of giving the bump a kiss and a hug. I think he knows I will have a baby. How he will react when the baby will be here in 4/5 weeks I don't know.
    I haven't actually thought about reading him a book about being "a big brother". I should probably get one as we have a lack of books at the moment anyway. I need some new ones.

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  5. we have a 2 year (and 5 days!) gap between our little people and we made sure the eldest was a big part of the preparations, he came along to the 4d scan and enjoyed listening to bump, he bought a gift for the new baby and the new baby bought one for him too. On the day we were coming home from hospital with baby 2, our first born had a special trip to build a bear so that he had something wonderful happen too.
    Emma xx

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  6. We tried to prepare Dylan but he was only 18 months when Archie arrived and didn't seem phased in the slightest. He was talking well, but didn't seem bothered somehow. This time it is very different, Dylan will be 3 and a half and he is very aware and Archie will be turning 2. We haven't talked to them too much about it but we are building it up now as it gets closer. I hope they are both ok with it this time!

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  7. When we had Little Man LP was only 20 months old, she had no idea of what was happening although she loved to blow raspberries on my bump! It sounds like you're preparing Amelia really well x

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