After the excitement of the birth of your baby and the confused muddle of the first few weeks, you and your partner have hopefully settled into some kind of a routine. You’re probably finding that, understandably, being a new parent can be demanding.
It’s probably been a while since you’ve kicked back with a girly film, or headed out with your partner for a date night. Heck, it’s probably been a while since you’ve allowed yourself a long soak in the tub. You and your other half are probably communicating in monosyllables, feeling about as romantic as a paper bag. So, how can you make time to reconnect, both with yourself and with your partner?
First off, there really is no shame in asking for help. You’ve probably got a few friends and family members close by who would be more than happy to step in, if you need an afternoon to yourself to go shopping, or just to sleep! You may even be in the lovely position of having your Mum or Mother-in-Law nearby: they’ve probably been longing to get their hands on the baby!
Next step is to start looking at how you plan your time. The baby has probably thrown your normal timetable out of the window. However, by planning your week in advance, you can work out when you are going to do the cleaning, the shopping, the washing and so on. Spreading out tasks across the week makes them more manageable, and if for some reason you find you can’t do one of them you at least know what is left to do for the rest of the week.
Having a weekend away with your partner will do wonders for your sanity. Once you hit the six-month mark you’ll probably feel strong enough to face the thought of letting someone else look after your little one overnight. Head to a country hotel, have a few drinks and let your hair down – you’ll feel ten years younger as a result.
Another way to get some valuable ‘me time’ is to ensure both you and your partner take a break from looking after the baby. If he wants to head down to the pub on a Saturday afternoon, let him! Perhaps the next day he can take the baby to the park whilst you have a lie-in or a nice bath.
Lastly, if you feel the need to reward yourselves, why not create a relaxing, strictly grown-ups only space in your home? You could redecorate the lounge and invest in some new, super-comfy sofas, or turn the bathroom into a spa-like retreat. Or, better yet you could splash out on a hot tub - there really is no better way to relax!
So ask for some help, plan your week well and you’ll soon find that it’s easy to make a little time for yourself and your partner. Soon you will be enjoying parenthood more than ever!
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