Hi there Oh So Amelia’s readers. I’m so excited that I’m guest blogging on one of my favourite Mummy blogs.
Today I want to share with you some tips for coping as a new Mum on your own. Whilst I’m not a single Mum (seriously, you ladies are superheroes), my partner does work abroad for up to 8 weeks at a time and so more often than not, it’s just me and Baby Boo.
Here are my tips:
Babies cry. I know this seems like an obvious point, but it’s soooo easy to get worked up when your baby is having a bad day – even more so when you’re on your own. Obviously if you think your baby is poorly then go to the doctors, but sometimes they do just cry because they want attention or they’re over tired. Also, your baby’s cry always seems louder to you – one Mum said to me when we were swimming, “Your baby has such a cute quiet cry”, when at the time I was thinking the exact same about her baby.
The hoovering can wait – a bit of dust here and there is not the end of the world! “A peck of dirt does no hurt”.
Try to make time to do something for yourself every now and again – whether that’s having someone look after your baby so that you can get your nails done, or to go for a quick drink with a friend. For me it’s to go spinning & to my book club. You’ll be surprised at how pleased your friends & family will be that you trust them enough with your baby.
When you have a bit of spare time (and if you’re pregnant do this before the baby comes), make meals that you can batch freeze. It’s such a faff going to the supermarket with a baby. I made loads of chicken soup & Bolognese before Baby Boo arrived and it has been a godsend whilst Mr Boo has been away.
Don’t try to achieve the impossible. You don’t have to be this perfect domestic goddess who always looks fabulous & is never late. If you think it’s going to be a struggle to meet your friend for coffee at 10.00am, ask if it can be a little later. No one will judge you! A couple of months ago I was over an hour late to meet a friend & turned up with sick in my hair (lovely). The point is, I knew it would be a struggle to meet her and instead of be late, I should have pushed it back before hand.
Try not to let others discourage you. If you want to take your newborn baby to water babies on your own, DO IT. If you want to go on a long car journey to see a friend, DO IT. Just because 30-40 years ago Mums may not have done these things, doesn’t mean it’s not right for you. Equally, if you want to stay at home, that’s fine too – there are no rights or wrongs with these things and sometimes I really wish the elder generations would realise how patronising and judgmental they are!! Rant over.
You are AMAZING – just try to tell yourself that from time to time, because I’m sure it’s true.
And finally…don’t forget to feed the cat (erm…. Speaking from experience *blush*) and yourself!
I hope you’ve found this helpful and if you’d like to read more of my posts, you can find me over at http://bloomingbooboo.blogspot.co.uk.