I've been noticing lately a lot of mums with toddlers the same age as Amelia announcing pregnancies or popping out babies and it's slowly dawning on me that Amelia is no longer a baby anymore! It got me thinking... When's the right time for another baby? Are we ready to have another baby? Do I even want another baby? So many thoughts and questions have been running through my head along with major baby fever!
Many people ask "So, when are you having another baby"..."Will Amelia be having a little brother or sister any time soon?" The answer is simply - "I don't know". I always think to myself don't be so bloody rude but in all honestly Amelia is now 15 months, many mums have two children at this age, my mum did with me and my brother and I have many friends who all have two babies under 2. Although I don't think I could juggle two that close in age I would like another - just not yet.
There are so many things to consider when thinking of expanding a family, here are some that I have been pondering over.
Can we afford to have another baby?
Of course we would be able to manage but are we financially able to afford another baby? If Amelia would still be in nappies that means double the amount of nappies. What if I couldn't breastfeed this baby? That would mean splurging out on bottles and formula. We would be set on clothes and baby products if we were to have another girl but if we had a boy we would have to buy many new items. If I was to go back to work after my maternity leave would we be able to afford child care? If not would we be able to live of just one wage if I were to become a stay at home mum for a couple of years?
Is Amelia ready to become a big sister?
In reality Amelia is still a baby herself, how would she react to having a baby brother or sister and not being the center of attention? Some babies develop behavioural problems when their parents introduce another member to the family. I know many families have a smaller age gap some with even a newborn and a one year old - god knows how they manage, but Amelia would be at least 2 and a half before another baby is on it's way over here so I don't think it would be too much of a problem. She will understand more then and hopefully won't mind the limelight being taken off her slightly. Of course we will love both babies just as equally but I've heard that many older babies tend to feel left out when a new baby enters the family.
What is my heart telling me?
The truth is sometimes's you just need to go with your heart and think is it the right time. I often ask myself is my heart telling me that I'm ready for baby number two? The main concern for us is will we be able to financially afford another baby yet? We are moving house and that wouldn't be an issue as we have plenty of space but with our monthly bills increased and if I were to leave work we wouldn't be able to afford this on just Andy's wage especially with all of our other bills too and plus I wouldn't get maternity pay as i've not long started my new job.
So to answer my own question... I still don't know when we will be ready for baby number two, although we would very much like Amelia to have a baby brother or sister. I guess it will happen when the time is right.
Did you have any worries when wanting to expand your family? Have you got baby fever?
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