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Get Your Social Life Back After Giving Birth

I have to admit when i gave birth to Amelia i practically hibernated for the first 6 months. I didn't go out, see friends, go to baby groups, you know the normal things you should be doing as a mum. As a new mum i wanted to spend all day every day with Amelia and this meant shutting myself out from the rest of the world and resorting from only going out with Andy and family. Looking back now i was being rather silly, and i realise i could have still enjoyed all of these activities with friends and Amelia too! 

The truth is...you can still have a social life and be a mum too! In fact it's now said that having a baby can actually widen an increase a woman's circle of friends.

Here are just some of the ways that you can get your social life back after giving birth!

1. Join baby groups - This is honestly the best way to meet mums just like you! They are all in the same boat; wanting to meet other mums. You can get so much help and support from these groups from likewise mums and its great for the little ones to play with other babies their age too. There are plenty of groups all over the country, if you aren't sure which ones are local to you ask your health visitor, they range from mother and toddler groups, breastfeeding and also swimming!

2. Play bingo - This is a great way to get your social life back! Countless amounts of people play bingo every day there's a good chance the majority of them are parents and also looking for something to do in their spare time. If you aren't quite ready to go down to your local bingo hall then what about trying your chances online? Sites such as Chitchatbingo.co.uk are becoming overly popular amongst millions of people wanting to win a bit of extra money and also meet new people too!

3. Go out for food with mummy friends - I rarely went out to eat and if i did it was with Andy. It would  have been great to go out with friends i had met at baby group or even other mum friends. I didn't start going out for lunch until Amelia was at least 8 or 9 months. I wish i had plucked up the courage sooner!

4. Invite people round after baby's bedtime - Of course this will only work when your baby is in a set routine and goes to bed early enough. This wouldn't be possible for us as Amelia doesn't go to bed till 10pm however it's definitely something to think about in the future. Having friends over when baby is asleep is a great way to socialise and relax with great company.

5. Don't be afraid to let others watch your baby - Every mum needs time to themselves sometimes away from screaming babies and changing nappies. If a family member or friends offers to baby sit for you so you can go out with friends or the other half take up the offer! Amelia must have been 4 months old before I even thought about leaving her for the evening. I'm still to leave her over night yet.

6. Make friends online - The amount of support you get online from other mums is amazing! I've met so many wonderful women online since I started blogging and some of those i can now call close friends! I have even met some of them in person too which was lovely and we are hoping to meet up again. You may notice that your old friends without babies become distant friends and it's true that when you have a baby you realise who your real friends are. I've probably had more support online from people i don't even know on various forums, Facebook, baby apps and Instagram. As the web is available 24/7 you will always have people to talk to all day and night especially if you are in need of advice or just a friendly chat at all hours of the morning.

How did you get your social life back after giving birth?

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39 comments

  1. I don't have much of a social life now never mind after the baby is here, ha ha! Great tips and advice!

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  2. great tips! its hard to get back in the social groove after baby!

    Have a happy Monday!
    http://thepreppystudent.blogspot.com

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  3. great post! I think its things like this you forget about when youre pregnant and worrying about things. Ive found that it changes social situations because the baby's attention distracts me or I have to feed her or change her and I lose track of the conversation flow! xx

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  4. With two kids and a husband that works all the time, I definitely don't get out of the house much. But we have joined a playgroup and attended a few playdates. The kids got to have some company and so did I. I'm also learning to connect and make new friends online too with other mom bloggers. Instant messengers like Skype allow me to have a mom's night in with friends or family no matter how many miles apart we are.

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  5. Great advice - I think socialising when you have a young baby is so important to stop you going mad and over thinking things!

    When you are out of the house you don't tend to notice how much they are eating, how long they slept etc and they tend to be happier looking at all the new things there is to see too!

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  6. This is a great post full of very good handy tips :) well done on a fab post

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  7. Great advice - I need to follow more of these tips!

    Thank you for the post

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  8. thanks for the great tips

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  9. Annie Costa @LaaMoii31 August 2013 at 15:21

    Great tips,I joined mother&baby groups.

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  10. brilliant advice :)

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  11. some great tips i will need to do some of these :)

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  12. My mum was my saviour in getting my social life back after having our children; she offered to babysit at any time (as long as we weren't too late back) and it made me feel great having my life back away from my baby.

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  13. Pam Francis Gregory2 September 2013 at 20:57

    It's always important to keep in touch with your friends.

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  14. Fabulous advise, but whats a social life lol

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  15. Social life? Friends? Hmmm.... My social life is more at work

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  16. Went out occasionally but it caused such arguments with in laws having to babysit (sometimes twice a year!) that we stopped bothering! Going to the supermarket became very exciting! :/

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  17. Ive never had much of a social life but hoping to get a better one when this baby comes along. Im hoping I will meet new people at baby groups and things, its that or join the oldies crafty club at my local library lol

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  18. some good ideas, just try and join groups that arent full of competitive mums eg 'how many teeth has your baby got, oh mine's got more' :-)

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  19. I wish we had family close enough to babysit, those who do are lucky! I think its a little natural to want to just be with your baby at first, and there's nothing wrong with that but it is important to not lose your sense of self too. Good tips there :)

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  20. shell_shoez27@yahoo.com8 September 2013 at 00:21

    Ive found it really hard to let go :( I no a social life is really important but I much prefer having friends around to mine.

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  21. great tips i rally do need to get a social life again!!

    tiffany wills

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  22. great advice, 2 and a half years on and I haven't got my social life back I need to work on that!

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  23. great advice xxx

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  24. i had a big issue with going out enjoying myself after my daughter was born and wouldnt go anywhere without her i think if you can get over that and go out you enjoy your baby even more for the time away from each other :)

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  25. You do definitely have to "get back out there" -so to speak. I was known as "Samuel's mum" rather than Kellie!

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  26. Tip for the chaps. Make the most of your free time ;-)

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  27. I did it wrong with both of mine. no matter how much I planned to be a social Bee, I just couldnt function normally for atleast 6 months if not more

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  28. great advice, its hard to get back out again

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  29. Great advice... although difficult when yo have two of different ages. Baby groups aren't possible this time round =(

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  30. I'm due to give birth imminently, but luckily my friends also have babies so my social life shouldn't be too difficult to retrieve! Failing that, we have some doting grandparents who will love to give us a break at some point.

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  31. I'm still trying to regain my social life so happy to read everyone's tips :)

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  32. Fabulous tips - I should try them

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  33. Already great to read this issue isn't only on my mind :). I actually also moved to another country a few years before having my kids so feel pretty isolated. Unfortunately no grandparents to babysit the kids once in a while but my sister in law has offered and we will take her up on it. Does feel like after so many years of just being mommy it's hard to get into conversations with adults again :). Guess I need some practise there. Thanks so much for writing about it!!

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