Having a baby is the most delightful and rewarding thing in the world to experience especially with your partner and someone you love, however you now have this little bundle of joy who needs your undying love and attention 24/7. Which is wonderful but you do tend to forget about the other half as you are putting all of your effort and little energy you have left after all those sleepless nights into changing nappies, feeding and entertaining the little one all day long you don't seem to have much time for each other anymore especially if he works all day too. You can check out more common relationship problems on bethealthmag.ca.
When Amelia was born immediately it felt like we spent less time together but more as a family. Of course we loved each other but you love your baby more it's just internal love. We have been through a few rough patches, I'll be honest. It's not easy but you do both need to sit down and make it work. Now that Amelia is older Andy is doing more with her as when she was younger he was working all the time and didn't really help out. I did the feeding, changing everything. I'm not sure whether he was scared as she was so fragile but over time he started helping out a bit more changing her nappy every now and again. Now that I'm back at work he has daddy days with her which is great for their bonding time. He is great with her now, he plays with her and you can see how much they love each other.
Before Amelia was born we would go out together all the time whether it be with a group of friends or just the two of us. We would dine out pretty much every night we weren't working. As soon as Amelia was born we knew we couldn't do this anymore. Also because she was breastfed I couldn't leave her for a long time so every now and again we would go out for 2 hours for a meal or a few drinks, this wasn't until Amelia was about 6 months old. We still don't go out much but it's nice that we can now if we want to. We do have one day of the week when we are both off work together and use that as family day.
You have to make your relationship work after having a baby and only you can do that. Here are some simple ways to keep the spark in your relationship:
2. Talk every day - ask how their day went.
2. Do something nice for each other spontaneously
4. Get physical
5. Help the other one out with housework
6. Thank each other when they do something nice
7. Cook each other dinner
8. Have breakfast in bed every once in a while
9. Surprise each other now and again
10. Kiss each other every day and before bed
Did you have experience relationship problems after having your baby? If so how did you fix them?
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