As a new mum myself I know how annoying it is to hear most of these comments. During conversation friends and family can forget to think before they speak which results in an unwanted remark. I thought it would be good to share some of the most commonly heard comments with you. I have had a few said to myself and may have regrettably said one or two in the past.
You may be reading this because you're a new or expecting mum, if so don't take them to heart people don't think before they speak.
If you're not a new mum... I advise you not to say any of the following to a new mum. (unless you don't mind having a black eye ;) ha ha ha!)
"You look like crap!" - Geeez! Thanks a lot you're suppose to be my friend! Never tell a mum who's just given birth she looks like crap, she doesn't really care...after all she has just pushed something the size of a melon out of her hoo ha!
"Why aren't you using cloth diapers?" - It's a matter or personal choice and which ever suits the family best. I didn't actually research into it but if I have another I will be giving them a go.
"You shouldn't co-sleep with your baby" - I'll do what I like with my baby and you can do what you like with yours! Most babies like to be close to their mum's after coming out of the womb, it makes them feel more secure. Plus I enjoy it too!
"My baby was sleeping through the night by that age" - And, do you want a medal? Babies reach milestones at different stages. Some babies just don't sleep through the night especially breastfed babies. Amelia still hasn't slept through the night at eight months old! However she does sleep much better now.
"You should... (insert baby advice)" - It's probably best that you keep your own opinions to yourself unless you want a smack in the face! Unless of course the mother has asked for your advice. A new mum can be very stressed and she doesn't need you sticking your oar in and telling her what she's doing right or wrong.
"When are you due again?" - Excuse me??? Okay so I've never had that said to me but I may have said it to a few ladies who had already given birth, a bit of verbal diarrhea there I hear you say. But if you don't know whether she has given birth yet or not I'd recommend thinking before you speak as you don't want to upset a hormonal lady. Most women do still have a small baby bump after giving birth, it's pretty normal.
"Awwww isn't she cute! When are you having another one?" - Let me get over the shock of having this one first please! and let me stitches heal, oooh and how about NEVERRRRRR AGAIN!!!?
"I had a natural birth...it's so easy!" - Good for you, some births are more complicated that others. Hence the reason I had to have an epidural, it wasn't planned but I'm glad I did otherwise my daughter may not be here today. She was born just as healthy, if not healthier than most babies.
"Why are you a stay at home mum? / When are you going back to work?!" - I'll go back when I'm good and ready. Many mums much prefer to stay at home during the first year of their babies life to watch them grown and go through all their milestones. What's so wrong with that? Of course I'll be going back sometime in the future, but we have managed this long and will do until I'm ready to go back when Amelia's no longer breastfed. Plus you may not believe it but being a stay at home mum IS a full time job! (or so I keep telling myself)
"Oh, she does look like her dad after all?" - What are you trying to say? Of course she does, because she is his! He is her father. Okay, so maybe it wasn't said intentionally but if you don't have anything nice to say then don't!
Okay, so what have I missed? What's the most ridiculous thing someone has said to you as a new mum? Leave them below.